The Best Tool for When Something Bad Happens

Have you ever found yourself trying to understand your place when something bad happens? Maybe you weren’t the one directly affected by it, but you knew someone who was and you weren’t sure how to best support that person?

I heard about this tool awhile ago and it’s stuck with me ever since. I’m a visual learner, so even though I can logically process what’s going on, being able to draw out the actual event that’s happening (and where I stand amongst it all) has really helped me.

So ask yourself, is there something going on now that you could use a little guidance with? Did you just recently experience something negative within the last several months? Watch this video to learn the best tool for what to do when something bad happens.

Keep in mind, time invested in learning how to support others is never time wasted. We are on this planet for human connection: it’s the most important skill you can ever sharpen. It may seem like your career, passion, money and skills are why you are here on earth but I believe those are just bonuses.

You are here to connect, support, relate and love. The human connection is the most beautiful connection in the entire world. By simply investing more time into understanding how to best strengthen that bond you have with others, you will reap the feelings of boundless, beautiful purpose.

Comfort vs. Complain Visual Tool

Directions:

Draw a circle in the middle of a piece of paper and write down the event that happened. Inside that same circle, write the names of the people who are directly affected by the event (example: a break up includes the two parties involved, and maybe a child).

Outside of that circle, draw another circle and inside of this one write the names of the people who are affected by the ones affected in the middle circle (example: a mother, a father, a best friend)

Outside of that circle, draw a bigger circle and write down the names of the people who are affected by those people who are affected (example: grandma, friends of friends, distant relatives).

On the outside of that, write down the people who have little to no affiliation but still have some sort of connection to those who are affected by the event and people involved.

Write down where you are in this scenario.

Anyone closer to the middle of the circle than you are people you provide comfort to, and anyone further away from the inside circle are people you can vent to.