8 Ways to Attract The Relationship of Your Dreams

Have you taken a break from the dating scene for a long hard while, and now you’re ready to jump back in? Feeling a little intimidated by how “times have changed” when it comes to meeting new people?

Dating is very different than it was just 5 or 10 years ago. It’s worlds different from the way our parents and grandparents dated (did anybody else’s grandparents get married after growing up in the same neighborhood all of their lives?) so it’s no wonder that attracting a partner isn’t as easy breezy as it might have been back in the day.

The average age of marriage is getting pushed back further and further, divorce rates are escalating, college is glamorizing “experimentation” and break-ups are keeping hearts hostage from risking pain ever again. We have to constantly strive to trust that a beautiful, nourishing relationship is not only possible but available to us, even when all signs point against it. I know that even the mere idea of dating is enough to run you back inside your apartment, but I promise it’s not all bad (in fact, it’s incredible when it’s right).

Sometimes there are moments of pure joy when you meet someone you really connect with, and then there are other moments that don’t feel so hot when one person may not feel the same way. It’s all a part of the process of finding the right person for you.

If you’re watching this video, it tells me that you’re already halfway there: you’re ready to receive! And being ready to receive means that that the universe is ready to give. So watch this video to “receive” 8 powerful ways to attract the relationship of your dreams.

1. Become what it is that you want

You don’t get what you want, you get what you are. So if you want a supportive, nurturing partnership, how are you being supportive and nurturing to those already in your life? If you want a beautiful balance of femininity and masculinity in your relationship, how are you fully “in” your feminine so that you can attract someone fully “in” his masculine? If you want someone that puts quality time above his work after work hours, ask yourself, are you doing that also?

2. Make physical space

Look at your nightstands. Is there room in one of them? Is there room in the kitchen for food other than yours? Is there space by the bathroom sink for another toothbrush? Making physical space in your home is another way to tell the universe you are ready to receive!

3. Put yourself out there

As Jim Carrey says, “you can’t just visualize and then go eat a sandwich.” Visualize and work on manifesting what you want, but don’t just sit there and do nothing about it. You must put yourself out there to give the universe an opportunity to provide. Sign up for online dating, go to local singles events, join an intramural team, ask your friends if they know anyone you could be set up with, and/or smile at that cute guy you always see at the coffee shop. Don’t forget to do your part and be at the places you think you could potentially meet someone while carrying an energy that says, “I’m ready!”.

4. Don’t let rejection hold you back

I know it feels icky to get rejected, but it’s a part of the process. If the relationship doesn’t result in life-long marriage, it means that someone will get rejected. I know it stings, and it’s hard to not take it personally, but do your best to remember that rejection is God’s protection. It happens for a reason. Turn on Dashboard Confessionals, have a phone call with your bestie, scream in your pillow, fall asleep to He’s Just Not That Into You and move on. Remember, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.

5. Step fully into your feminine

Want a male that’s fully in his masculine? Totally embrace all that you are as a woman. If you have hidden blocks about being a woman, uncover the sh*t out of those and work on obliterating them to shreds. I’ve done a lot of work on myself in the past year and it’s made me a much more confident female who’s okay with being taken care of, feeling emotional, and allowing my sexy self to feel alive. If I didn’t allow myself to make those changes, I would still be attracting the same kind of guy I have been for most of my life, going in circles, unhappy with both myself and my relationships.

6. Be grateful for your wholeness

When you spend a lot of time manifesting a relationship, you might forget that you’re still complete and whole without one. This relationship that you’re attracting is going to enhance you, not complete you. So in order to not lose sight of that, I invite you to have a steady gratitude practice where you remind yourself that you’re already perfect and complete. Never forget that you do not need anyone; it’s that you are choosing someone (which makes it even more beautiful).

7. Don’t be attached to the “how”

You may have replayed a story in your head most of your life about how you’re going to romantically bump into your future husband at a New Years Eve party where you lock eyes at the last minute before the clock strikes midnight, and he sweeps you up and kisses you passionately. LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, Y’ALL. While this could totally happen, I invite you to not get attached to this idea. The way you meet could be through your mom. It could be through your ex. It could be on a dating website. Socially, it might appear “unromantic” but who the heck cares as long as you find each other? Become unattached to how you find each other because the universe will find a way however it sees fit.

8. Know what you want, but allow room for surprises

I am someone who does believe in non-negotiables. I have wavered on these a few times, but those relationships never worked out. Eventually, the novelty would wear off and I’d realize that I valued those certain qualities for a reason. It’s okay if you have a few things you know you really want to have in a partner, but have some room for surprises in other areas as well. Again, don’t write off someone strictly because their hometown’s baseball team is a rival to yours, or that you’ve never dated someone with their ethnicity before. Be open because you may be surprised and learn something new about what you actually do like!

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