Are You Punishing Yourself to Punish Him?

Depriving yourself is not the way to deeper love.

In fact, it’s a continuation of the very essence you’re trying to heal from.

When you punish yourself as a way to “win,” you’re reinforcing the idea that pain equals change + triumph.

The embodied belief that withholding the truth of your heart as a way to get back at somebody is one of the oldest conundrums of all time.

How could hiding emotions ever be winning?

How could fighting back tears be good for your energetic flow?

I’m not saying you need to “open.”

I’m saying you need to value truth.

Truth above all.

And punishment is a distraction from truth.

It’s a prolonger of pain.

I share more on this theme in the video below. Click the image and you'll be able to watch the teaching in full. ⬇️

𝙃𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙨 𝙣𝙪𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚: if you’re in a relationship with someone who “gets off” on your pain, and puts you into positions of feeling upset just so you get to that point of anger, then there’s probably a reason you’re holding back.

You know this cycle and it’s not healthy.

You’re punishing yourself to punish them and they’re punishing you to punish them. It’s a trauma bond.

If that’s the case - I still encourage you to feel what’s true for you. And then go an inch deeper… perhaps to your very core where you can get radically honest about it.

But, if that’s not the case, and you’re holding back because you’re scared to own your truth… this is a great way for you to begin to create a stronger foundation of trust between yourself and your love.

If this resonates with you and you feel ready to begin your journey into deeper feminine embodiment, polarity, and archetypal play, I'd like to invite you to explore my Lecture Library.

The Lecture Library is a space where my past group calls, masterclasses, guest teachings, guest teachers, practices and more get refined into smaller audios + videos and uploaded for you individually.